I was in a Facebook discussion today. The topic was about abused Christian women leaving the marriage and remarrying. I joined the discussion by saying that Jesus had said that remarriage was adultery.
I was attacked by two Christian women, one of whom I’ve known for a long time. Despite quoting Bible verses and Biblical principles, they would not hear what I was saying. Perhaps more importantly, at no time did they try to support what they were saying from the Bible. By the time I pulled myself out of the discussion, these words have been aimed at me.
“Legalism on steroids”
“I will pray for you” – code words for “you are a sinner”
“WAKE UP You are dangerous”
“You are why people despise Christians”
“Take your bible and go home” – an odd statement to hear from a Christian
“you aren’t converting anyone with your hatred”
“You are evil”
“Your ears are stoppered”
“You are hateful”
“You sound like a crude clanging brass cymbal without love”
“May our heart be so full of God’s love and peace that we can only speak words that bring life” – apparently teaching what Jesus said does not bring life … despite what he said.
Below are the words they used to support their position that being happy and safe is more important than what Jesus said.
“I don’t believe Jesus or anyone else expects a woman to not ever be happy again”
“Every person has to work out their own salvation” – apparently this means you can keep sinning until you figure it out.
“If God expects a woman to be beaten to a pulp by her husband i want nothing to do with that God” – This person continuously misrepresented my position as saying that God wanted women to stay in abusive relationships. So her comment would be irrelevant except for what it shows about the state of her faith. She is saying “I chose God to be what I wanted him to be”
“Get in the persons shoes before you speak” – apparently Jesus was out of line when he spoke on adultery … never having been an adulterer himself.
“you believe in the law above personal safety” – perhaps the most interesting comment of all. Personal safety and personal happiness is more important than obeying Jesus. The apostles didn’t believe this and all but John died badly. Certainly Jesus didn’t say to his father “no way I’m drinking that cup – my safety is more important”
“Jesus is all about love, acceptance and forgiveness” – this from a person who is now old and has been a Christian all her life. Apparently Jesus’ love and acceptance cancel out his other words.
“The Holy Spirit is our teacher and our guide and He will guide his children into all truth” – apparently the Holy Spirit is teaching something different than Jesus taught. You would think they would get their act together. Seriously, you have to listen to the Holy Spirit to be guided by the Holy Spirit. If you listen to people instead, you are lost.
This post isn’t about the severe lack of understanding in many churches, though you could think that was the topic. The topic is what Jesus, the prophets before him, and the apostles said about divorce and remarriage. This article puts together the verses that discuss this.
The primary focus is divorce due to abandonment, which is an excuse used to leave an abusive relationship and remarry.